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Teens and ADHD

ADHD Persistence Doesn’t Always Pay Off

  • LovingGrADDitude
  • July 1, 2020
  • ADHD and teens, ADHD coach, ADHD coaching, ADHD families, executive functions

“Persistence pays off.”  

“Energy and persistence conquer all things.”

“Persistence is the key to success.”

We’ve all heard these quotes.  They are positive statements that encourage us to keep working, keep striving to meet our goals and feel a sense of accomplishment.  Many of us probably have various motivational quotes written down to inspire and remind us to keep moving forward! 

But what happens when we don’t WANT to hear these quotes and phrases?  Those times when we can be frustrated by SOMEONE (normally a loved one) being persistent in our lives…in a negative way.

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OWN Your ADHD

OWN Your ADHD

  • LovingGrADDitude
  • January 30, 2020
  • ADHD, ADHD coach, ADHD coaching, own your adhd, time management

31 Days have elapsed in this new decade and I’m wondering how many of you are STILL sticking to your resolutions, intentions, goals, (whatever you’ve named it!) for 2020? Hands raised? Hands lowered? How’s it going?

 

I. AM. STILL. GOING. STRONG!

And it feels GREAT to commit to something every day so far!

 

I highly encourage you to NOT give up on something you’re wanting to do for yourself!

 

One of the things I say to my clients all the time is:

“Don’t let yourself down!”

 

Don’t do it! Stick to your guns and remember the importance of why you decided to want to do these things. Don’t allow yourself to be deterred (or get in your own head!) because it seems too high a goal or something that was just too far fetched.

If you’re reading this and you have challenges with ADHD and Executive Functions, I am here to share with you –> I am fully engaged this month on HOW to best support you! How to stay on task, How to get projects and to do lists done and NOT be beholden to all the negative stuff that comes into your thoughts that deter you from being awesome!

 

This month it’s all about OWNING your ADHD!

 

Yep! I’m making this the month to share how you can be more productive, accountable, and manage time all the while bringing an understanding of ADHD into your world as to WHY you may not be able to stay motivated.

 

Anyone bored with their goals yet?  Anyone not feeling motivated?

 

AHHH…I’ve got you! Stay with me and follow me on Social Media – INSTAGRAM OR FACEBOOK – so you don’t miss any of the goodness coming your way!

Make February YOUR month to OWN your ADHD..like the rock star that you are!

Kelly

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Teens and ADHD

“Momma, I’ll Always Find My Way Back to You”

  • LovingGrADDitude
  • May 15, 2019
  • ADHD and teens, ADHD coach, ADHD coaching, NC ADHD Coach, parenting ADHD, Parenting teens with ADHD

I never knew what fear felt like before I became a parent.  

While my faith grounds me and I know from a biblical perspective, I am not to live in fear as it’s a barrier to my relationship with God, I do have it.  

One of my strongest fears ties into one of my son’s greatest strengths…isn’t that ironic?  My parent “fear” is losing my child. Meaning, he will get lost and I’ll never see him again. (Gosh, I am feeling utterly vulnerable sharing this!)  Maybe because it’s happened at least 5 times since he’s been born. The wandering in crowds seems to own us, even though I’d consider myself an amazing hyper alert and vigilant mom when it comes to crowds and my children.  Case in point, even the most vigilant parents can lose their child in the blink of an eye if they don’t have their eyes on them. Most recently this past summer and I’m sharing it because this last time I learned something about my son when he got lost.  Something I didn’t realize about him.

It was one of the first weekends of summer and we made the trip to our local amusement park. We were all obviously giddy with anticipation for the day ahead, but when we got out of the car, we made sure to stop and put on sunscreen.  We could hear the people screaming whilst riding the rides and music was playing throughout the park. Our boys were looking around at the massive roller coasters and all the swirly whirly metal rides around the park, excited to join in the fun.

Our day progressed, but before long the sky fell black, thunder rolled and the sky opened up.  It was an all out Southern summer thunderstorm. We all bolted for the car along with hundreds of others exiting the park.  It was raining so hard I could barely see 3 ft ahead of me. Before long, we made it to the truck, except my son. He was nowhere to be found.  In the running and confusion, he became lost. And we had lost sight of him.

Words really can’t explain how I felt, as I went from 0-100 in half a second thinking I’d never see him again.  I immediately began screaming for him in the parking lot, as if anyone could hear me over the roaring of the storm.  I ran back and forth from the entrance of the park to the truck, up and down the parking lots to no avail. There was a woman who even stopped and asked me what he was wearing and I described him and she ran the opposite direction in search of him.  I saw her 2 more times with no success. (I would have loved to give her a hug and thank her for caring about my son, but I never saw her after that moment.)

They say, when in utter panic mode, a minute is like an hour, right?  I believe about 20 minutes elapsed, which literally felt like a day, until I heard our oldest son screaming for me somewhere nearby.  My youngest had found his way back to the car. I cannot tell you the relief I had. Have you ever not been able to control your sobbing and crying?  What a moment. Praise the Lord.

Fast forward to the evening when I was able to converse and talk about it without crying.  My son told me that in the midst of all the running and crowds of people, he ran straight past our row and almost to the end of the parking lot.  After walking down some rows of cars, he realized he wasn’t where he was supposed to be. Instead of panicking, he stopped and tuned into his senses.  He remembered what part – literally the part – of the roller coaster he was looking at when we were putting sunscreen on.   He knew he had to backtrack to get to that view of the roller coaster, and there he would find the truck.  

And he did.  Did he realize he was lost and we weren’t with him?  Yes. Was he scared? A little bit – his senses were heightened and he was highly alert – he even said it was sorta exciting.  Of course he did – he had his own little unplanned adventure! He was great under pressure and kept control of himself in that situation (which I applauded him for months after).  When I asked him if he was worried about finding his way back, he said, “Momma, I’ll always find my way back to you.”

I debated whether to share this story due to how emotional it is for me thinking about the times he’s been lost.  I literally have a pit in my stomach writing this. However it’s important to continue to bring awareness to an awesome strength of ADHD.  Be it visual, auditory, smell, touch, taste, those with ADHD have heightened senses. My son is so spot on with directions because of what he sees outside and how he associates buildings, signs, houses, trees, stores and roads and connects them all together.  

Which leads me to think ahead to when he drives and when your teens begin driving.  It’s never too early to test your teen on their surroundings. Ask them what they see, notice, hear, smell.  It will be challenging enough when they are behind the wheel. Why not engage them when you are driving now and see if they know how to get back and forth to the school, grocery, their friends’ houses?  It’s a great way to gauge how in touch they are with their surroundings. Who knows, they may surprise you and find their way back home, all by themselves. Mine certainly did.

With an Abundant amount of GrADDitude for my son’s senses,

Kelly

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Raising Teenagers

5 Simple Steps to Get Your Children Out of the House in the Morning

  • LovingGrADDitude
  • May 5, 2019
  • ADHD, ADHD coach, ADHD coaching, morning routine, parenting, Teens and ADHD

Why does it feel like some mornings it takes an act of God to get your children out the door?   

Take the stress out of mornings with some very simple steps which will make a smooth transition from bed to bus stop!

  1. Pack backpacks the night before.  Once homework is done, place everything you need for the next day in it.  There should be a “set” place for them, too! This might sound silly, but how many times has your backpack grown legs and moved from one room to another unbeknownst to you and all of a sudden there’s an extra 3 minutes (and high stress) looking for the backpack?  Pick a spot!

  2. Prepare lunch boxes/snacks the night before.  Parents, this is for you!  You have enough on your plate (literally) in the mornings, don’t add to it.  Prepare all of this the night before so you and your child can grab and go in the morning.

  3. Breakfast is only served when your child is fully dressed.  MEANING: once your child leaves their bedroom in the morning, they do not return!   That means socks and shoes are on before they eat.  How much time is wasted putting socks and shoes on right before you walk out the door?  It will stop the yelling, arguments and stress. Enforce this and it will become a habit quite quickly…and you will have more peace in the mornings.

  4. After eating, the last thing they do is brush their teeth.  Good hygiene is important and that happens after they eat!  Yes, this may mean moving toothbrushes to a place closer to the kitchen and yes, buying a second set of them, but it is worth it!   The goal is to not have them return to their rooms or upstairs once they come to the kitchen.  Think about it like this – you are minimizing distractions!  

  5. Always have a timer in the kitchen.  I am a huge fan of the Time Timer.  It shows time elapsing – set it when they begin eating breakfast so they know how much time they have.  When it goes off, that’s when it’s time to leave the table and brush their teeth. If you need to set it again for the teeth brushing, you can do this as well, but I’m not sure how many children and teens are brushing more than 3 minutes!

Once teeth are brushed, they head to the door, grab their backpack, lunch box and off they go!

With Much GrADDitude (and more peace in the mornings!),

Kelly

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So helpful! I always dread telling my son about a change in plans. Excellent approach.

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