My son just texted from school and said he did poorly on a test after studying hard for it. He said, “I’m really mad at myself.” Then proceeded to send a meme of an NBA “L” (meaning loser) that flashed on my screen.
The most painful part of the text from my son was not the test results, but how hard he was on himself.
In our home, we don’t allow any negative talk-nothing-whatsoever. It serves no purpose. It’s gone as soon as it’s spoken. If I hear our boys utter one unkind word about themselves or say one to each other, they must say 5 positive things in return and look into one another’s eye (so painful for boys) and apologize on the spot.
I refused to allow him to even “go there” in his thinking, so I texted back, “I’m not raising a loser. If you think you’re a loser, you will be.”
It’s important for all of us to remember that thoughts can form beliefs that lead to action. If you think you’re a loser, you’ll believe it and act like one.
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